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Chickoon (chik – koon)

-noun

the feeling of warm safety combined with a sense of rebirth on the recipient’s part that often develops from good cuddling

-verb

to energetically enfold a cuddling partner in a warm safe space, as in:  You seem stressed. C’mhere, I’ll chickoon you for a while.

-origin

Last night after researching with my OMing partner, I just naturally layed my head on his chest and he put his legs on top of mine. (He was on his back, I was on my side, for the visual thinkers out there.) He gently stroked my hair and face. In the midst of that, I said I felt I was inside a cocoon, and also felt like a little baby chicken that had just been born. Thus,

chickoon

was created.

I wish that feeling for all of you. It’s wonderful to feel safe and close and gentle and quiet and nurtured. Just plain and simple held. I don’t know that it’s in my nature to give it, but I wish I could give it to you.

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I had fun today helping a massage therapist with his website setup. I’m still learning that when I’ve done something, it counts as expertise, even if I learned it by doing it for my own business!

I’ve setup newsletters, and written them; set up pages for Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Yelp; know Mint.com really well for money tracking and planning; I know Salesforce (which some people don’t know you can use for free online) and have set up systems for tracking sales and marketing activities. I’ve organized the heck out of Gmail messages with the labeling system, and know David Allen’s Getting Things Done recommendations. I know how to edit in iMovie. And let’s not forget our generous host here…I know and enjoy WordPress blogs! Oh, and I also like electronic calendars and databases and I’m learning that not everyone finds them as heavenly to set up as I do.

Jane of many trades. Excited to serve.

 

Thanks for reading. For telling someone about my services if you are so inclined. For doing your own kind of self-expressing service when and where you can. Thanks for thinking about what would make your life even a little bit better, and then doing that. Thanks for telling someone a truth that has been on your mind. Thanks for customizing your holiday experience to be just right for you. Thanks for choosing love over the lack of it.

Bo Derek

Top Ten Happiness Provokers in Beth Today

1)  I got a Carmen song stuck in my mind and went I went to listen it out, I found this adorable classic.

2)  Could feel a roommate’s anger. Asked her about it, stayed open, had a great sweet conversation. In the midst of a work deadline, communicating with a worker about the tub being full of dirt (they fixed it), as well as heading to a lunch meeting.

3) Thoroughly enjoyed said lunch with new neighborhood friend. She helps men “get the girl”, so I think I may have a possible solution to transitioning away from the dating client that’s not the best match for what I’m offering anymore. And she moved here from Texas and is really into spiritual things as well as entrepreneurship. Aye carumba!

4) Breathing in the sunshine after a fresh rain had passed by. Enjoyed a simple present walk.

5) Moving forward with the project to market the children’s book illustrator. Him sharing how I inspired him. Yay.

6) Another roommate, the master tenant, shared with me over breakfast that she may want to move out. I did not freak out (although I did selfishly think, “but I just bought a bed!!”). I will cross that bridge when I come to it. People say stuff all the time. It’s the action decisions that I need to take actions on. I absolutely do not need to knock myself out trying to find a place on CL just yet.

7) Yesterday I ran in to a friend on the bus, and we’ve been trying to work out a schedule for massage trades for ages. I called him with a time I could give him a massage today and he didn’t call me back. A friend and client texted me last minute to see if I would give him a massage today. I am totally in the mood for it, it will balance out the computer work I’ve been doing and smooth out my energy. Thank you thank you! Sometimes the blank of the desire gets filled in unexpected ways if I allow it to.

8) At a time this morning when I normally would have emotionally tanked when perceiving Cadillac didn’t like something, not only did my ship not sink, I stayed floating on the waves inside of me. Okay, so I caught a little bit of air on a couple of them, but no capsizing is definite progress.

9) I had a FANTASTIC conversation with a good friend today about a wild monk and the etiquette of conscious 3somes. Fascinating!

10) Still glowing from discovering that the 2 pastors for whom I’m babysitting on a regular basis are in a Presbyterian group of churches who are moving forward with ordaining gay and lesbian pastors. YAY!

On This Harvest Moon

The Enneagram thought of the day for Ones:

In this season of harvest, consider how you have reaped what you have sown in your life. What has insisting on objectivity at the expense of connection with others brought you? How can you learn from your harvest today?

Tonight I listened to one of the fabulous Stanford Entrepreneur series podcasts. If there are rock stars in my life, Stanford entrepreneurs are who I buy tickets to see and throw my panties at on stage. Wow wow wow. So cool. ESPECIALLY the ones in the social responsibility for profit arena.

So right now I’m avoiding painting Sabine the Saboteur. Because I’m intimidated to spend time with her. She’s a f***** b**** in my experience. Yet I want to get below the wave of her vile harpy judgment and find the buried treasure. I do think these voices carry messages. That when I don’t listen or act appropriately, they up the ante.

okay fine. I’m going to light some incense and clear a space to paint. Hold please……

Well I found the paint but Sabine hid the paintbrush. That’s okay darling…fingerpaint never killed anyone and soap and water will work just fine afterwards.

So what do Sabine and social entrepreneurs from Stanford for who I have lust in my brain have in common?

Sabine provided some running commentary while I was listening to the podcast! That gave me some practice. She is so freakin talented at punching right into the soft fleshy parts of my soul.

“You’re not a REAL entrepreneur. You think you’re an entrepreneur, you wanna be. Wanna-be entrepreneur but NOT. You’re just a little assistant.” *spit out the word assistant like you’re saying rat poison as you say this to yourself. that’s how she said it. assistant.*  “You’re not doing anything but hanging on to the people doing the REAL work.”

So I’m kind of on the ropes at this point and I didn’t realize that her noise was louder than the fascinating guy talking on the podcast. Oh, he was so smart and charming and well-spoken and they joked about football and it’s so dreamy!

But I recovered a little bit to state back to her….

I’m doing things not everyone can do or wants to do-

I give support beyond just the tasks I’m completing-

And what about the financial counseling service offering and body of knowledge?-

Woah. Some silence. Like 2 seconds of it. I’ll take it!

So I think the lesson is face it, don’t get too stuck, don’t take it too seriously, face it again.

Off to paint. And interact.

It Really Is Good

Okay, I need to do on my current life what I do for my clients. I need to get Bethitized.

Project Round-Up:

• I have a few pieces to write to you (and keep for me), my loved ones seen or not.

• I have some client networking to do. As of next week, half of my working hours become free and available! Wooh! Let the sane and happy usefulness continue! For Client A, I’ve set my minimum business development outreach calls per day (which for us is a half day) at 10. No reason I can’t do that for Unconditional Serenity, at the least until the pipeline gets flowing again.

• I sold www.spiritualfinances.com, and am now learning how to transfer it to the new owners, a lovely couple from Nu Joiihsee.<<Good news! I had drafted that sentence, and in the time this pregnant sentence was sitting in my Draft box, I figured it out and completed it to the best of my knowledge. Score!>>

• My financial counseling business has seen a bit of a surge in the last week, which I am happy about. Not only is it an interesting subject to talk about, it definitely tames that part of my mind that tells me I’m not doing enough money-wise. That I am debt-free, with my own business, and some retirement savings, is enough for today. My expenses are less than my income. Amen.

• Look for improvements to www.organizationcoach.net. And if there are questions/ideas you have for the general subject of home organizing from a spiritual perspective, I’d love to hear them from you. Next step is to put up success quotes from former clients.

• I’m working on getting back into playing tennis as fun and also angst output. Made a couple of contacts in my neighborhood and am actively pursuing either singles or doubles partners to practice with weekly. (I found classes but they started in June.) Next step, get a racket!

• Speaking of rackets (HA), I signed up for the Landmark Forum weekend in August. (Racket is one of their terms.) I got so much out of reading the 3 Laws of Performance book that I want to follow it up. I’ve done Spiritual Overhaul, Body Overhaul, Energy Overhaul, Money Overhaul, and my limiting fear-based mind looms next.

Right then. Carry on!